Marriage counselor and motivational speaker Frank Edem Adofoli have asked ladies to stop giving out money to their boyfriends to be used in marrying them.
According to the marriage counselor, if a lady indulges in such an act, she is teaching the man not to provide and that she can do it all by herself.
“There are nothing wrong helping people you love but there is everything wrong helping a man to marry you, it means he doesn’t have what it takes to marry you. After the marriage, do you expect him to be a full man or half-man? Do you expect him to provide, since you are teaching him it is fine not to provide because you can do that?
Any woman who wants to end up together with the man she loves has to show him how to get her, but not to cheapen herself for him without letting him get her. The truth is, he might know your true value because he didn’t get you.
Instead of putting your clothes in a bag for bride price, giving him money, clothing him, etc, rather motivate and pray for him to work and earn enough to do that. If he has to go to school and learn a new skill, let him do that.
At least he will respect and value you when he is spending on you. No one wants to waste what he spends on. But it is easy to disrespect and waste what you didn’t spend on or work for.” He wrote on Facebook.